Gloria's Oversexed Mind

Have a gay holiday!

Happy Fourth, everyone.

Most Interesting Story of the Week: Gender experiment

It's making some people livid but to me, this is a great, innovative and beautiful experiment. I don't think it will in any way harm the child (on the contrary, it allows the child to make choices based on natural desires and not gender constructs). I don't think it will alter the child's innate sexual orientation (again, I think it will help the child develop a healthier sexuality, unencumbered by expectations tied to a sex). I think this is a very lucky kid who will naturally develop into a very strong, self-confident person whose sense of self is based on self, and not social expectation.

Keeping the Gender of a 2-Year-Old Secret

One couple in Sweden...are refusing to tell anyone whether their toddler is a boy or a girl.

The child — called Pop in Swedish papers to protect his or her identity — is now two-and-a-half-years-old, and only a handful of close relatives (those who have changed the child’s diaper) know the sex. Pop’s parents, who are both 24, say they made this decision in the hope of freeing their child from the artificial construct of gender.

“We want Pop to grow up more freely and avoid being forced into a specific gender mould from the outset,” Pop’s mother told the Swedish newspaper Svenska Dagbladet last spring. “It’s cruel to bring a child into the world with a blue or pink stamp on their forehead.”

Pop wears dresses, and also “male” styled pants, and Pop’s hairstyle changes often, from traditionally feminine to traditionally masculine.

Most horrifying story of the week: Duke official molests adopted son

AOL allows you to pick from a limited range of front screens when you log on. I've got most of my accounts set to generic national media, but the one attached to my blog email is set to Black Voices. I chose it out of curiosity to see what AOL offered the black community and whether stuff came up on Black Voices that don't make as big a splash on the generic whiter channels. I'm very happy I did because Black Voices carries tons of stuff I'd never otherwise see, from off-beat stories and profiles of black leaders, musicians and artists, to unique and lively community chatboards that are waaaay more literate than the mainstream AOL ones where the eloquent Hegelian dialectics devolve upon such witticisms as "u suck" and "kill the liberals!"

Today I found a link via Black Voices to perhaps the most sickening disgusting story of the week (or month or possibly year): a white official at a major Southern university adopted a black toddler specifically for the purposes of sexually abusing and pimping the child.

Why isn't this story on AOL's whiter news? For that matter, why isn't it all over the national news? Considering the usual hysteria with which crimes against children elicit in the media, why has this story been so neglected? This is a BIG story, isn't it? He has emotionally murdered that child. If Madoff got 150 years, what punishment should the courts set on this evil bastard?

Duke University Official Frank Lombard Allegedly Offered Adopted Son For Sex Via Online Chat

A Duke University official has been arrested and charged with offering a 5-year-old boy for sex.

Frank Mccorkle Lombard, the school's associate director of the Center for Health Policy, was arrested Wednesday, June 24 after an Internet sting, according to the FBI's Washington field office and the city's police department.

A confidential informant claimed to have seen Lombard molest a young African-American child via online chats on multiple occasions....

Authorities said that Lombard tried to persuade a person — who he did not know was a police officer — to travel to North Carolina to have sex with a child.

In the chat transcript, WRAL reports, "F.L." is asked how he got access to a child so young. "Adopted," he replied, and said that the process was "not so hard ... esp (sic) for a black boy."

In the chat, "F.L." told Palchak that abusing the child was "easier when he was too young to know what was happening and when he couldn't talk ...He had a little too much Benadryl. Was knocked out."

Fourth Fun: events you may not know about

Still casting about for something interesting or different to do this holiday weekend? A random selection of one-of-a-kind events.

In L.A.:

the Wandering Uterus Tour
Hosted by Cassandra Love
with Marty McConnell, Tristin Silverman & Corrie Greathouse too
also open reading

Friday, July 3, 2009
7:30pm - 10:30pm
Location: Stories Books 1716 Sunset Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA
Phone: 2134133733

In N.Y.:

DJ Jason & Shadowlands present

Absolution Weekend

NYC's original multi DJ scene night returns for a celebration of the NYC underground

Friday & Saturday
July 3rd & July 4th, 2009
goth, darkwave, industrial, death rock, EBM, synth pop

Doors open at midnight. Open late.
$20 cover donation, or $15 w/ this pass.
ID is a must for this private party. (18 to enter, 21 to drink)
113 Doyers street (3 blocks south of Canal off Bowery)
Youth Palace Inc.
Chinatown, NYC

More details:
Myspace.com/nycabsolution

In San Francisco:

Huge Vintage Clothing Sidewalk Sale!!

Saturday, July 4, 2009 at 9:00am - Sunday, July 5, 2009 at 4:00pm

Hi Folks! I'm hosting a big vintage clothing sale with fantastic bargains on clothing: vintage to modern, and great accessories: shoes, bags etc, as well as a large collection of vintage vinyl: LPs to die for!! It's right in the heart of Hayes Valley, Saturday, July 4th AND Sunday July 5th, from 9am till 4pm both days, behind Momi Tobies cafe, this coming weekend!! Don't miss it!

491 Linden St.
San Francisco, CA
Email: voilaveronica@gmail.com

In Atlanta.

Atlanta artist John Cox, whose caricatures of Iranian leaders are turning up on protest signs around the world, will exhibit hundreds of his caricatures and political cartoons from 7 to 10 p.m. at Sycamore Place Gallery, located at 120 Sycamore Place in Decatur, next door to Fellini's Pizza. With sketchpad in hand, he also will draw a caricature of YOU, if you desire. Free.

Saturday, July 4, 2009
7:00pm - 10:00pm
Sycamore Place Gallery
120 Sycamore Place
Decatur, GA

Phone: 4043777747
Email: sycsyl@yahoo.com

Rack Squirrel

Embedded video from CNN Video

Will opines that the reason she carried the squirrel in her shirt was because her panties were already full of groundhogs.

Kinky parents: Shhhh!

Might be a good idea to save that sexy spanking for a night when the kids are at the movies.

Teens Mishear Loud Sex, Beat Man

According to Torrington police and the woman, the girl thought her mother was being attacked... Police say the teens went into the bedroom and beat the mother's 25-year-old companion with a baseball bat and punched him. The man, Roger Swanson of Torrington, says he suffered a black eye and several bruises.

The woman, Melanie Arnold, denies she screamed. She tells The Associated Press her daughter heard a slap and thought it was an assault.

A pussy of rare talent

Cleo Dubois, in her own words: Part II

CLEO DUBOIS _{is a BDSM Educator, ritualist, creator of the Academy of S/M Arts, and Leather columnist . A versatile sadomasochist whose private interests lay in caring sadism, switching and cross-orientation play, she came out in the San Francisco Leather Scene in the early 80's. Her two popular docu-films, "The Pain Game" and "Tie Me Up," are available on 1 DVD, "The S/M Arts Collection," on her website www.sm-arts.com, where you will also find details about the Erotic Dominance Weekend Intensives for Men and Women. She offers private guided play to individuals and couples in the privacy of her San Francisco area dungeon, as well as office and phone consultations.Read Part I of Cleo's story}

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A BIG mistake

It was 1988; I had been a professional Domina for quite a few years already. Fakir and I were vacationing in Mexico when I first encountered his inner femme. I did encourage ” her” to come out, bought him a sexy pair of black high heels at that little shop on the back of the church where “Berdaches”, gender bending shamans, and diva/boys shopped. I dressed him in my beautiful white summer dress and had him sashay for me on the hotel veranda at sunset. I had play in mind.

Humiliating cross-dressers was in my repertoire as a Mistress. Deep inside I harbored disdain for men in dresses as poor imitations of women. As our play unfolded, I tied him to a white rattan chair, thighs spread wide, ridiculed and verbally abused him for his lack of masculinity. There was nothing about humiliation that was a turn on for him/her. Our scene turned sour. I got angry, so did he and he felt deeply hurt. He wanted so badly to be accepted for the fetish girl he was inside. Seven years earlier, he had divorced his first wife who despised his kinky appetite and shamanic explorations. He wanted a loving Dominant Mistress, and he thought he had found her.

I took off his rhinestone collar and we both buried that memory as if it never happened. We did not play that way again for several years. When we opened dialogue again on his gender play, he volunteered that for several decades he was his own Top and his own bottom! It took me several years to accept that his gender explorations were part of his shamanic tradition.

In her monthly column “Relaiming Eros” on www.CarnalNation, my friend Margaret Wade explains that “a fairly consistent feature of the stories of two-spirit people is that they were respected within their communities and, in most tribes, were simply considered another gender.”

_{photo by Erin Flynn}

In those days, so many of my friends were dying: young and middle-aged leathermen ravaged by the opportunistic diseases of HIV/Aids at death’s door in a matter of a few weeks! My grief was so big, it blinded me. I was looking for Daddy, security and magic. The magic that would fix all. I did not see the two-paths walker Fakir really was. Sure I had seen photos of him corseted, soft and submissive. It turned out that he had made his first corset in 1958 and pierced his ears so he could wear earrings in private!

The leatherman of my dreams he was not, but the bigness of his heart and spirit touched me deeply. We dated, got engaged and a year later we tied the knot in a beautiful redwood grove in the summer of 1990. Witnessed by our leather tribe, our very close friend , playmate, Wicca priest leather faerie Ganymede drew a magic circle and called in big spirits. Jim Ward, co-creator of modern body piercing with Fakir, was our civil representative. We were gifted the service of a 25 year old “leather boy ” for our pleasure that night!

A little kinky I guess, but really very appropriate for us!

Plus ca change, plus c”est la meme chose.

(to be continued) © Cleo Dubois 2009

Cleo Dubois Academy of S/M Arts
http://www.sm-arts.com

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Heading to Colorado this summer? Meet me at Thunder in the Mountains July 17-19! I am pleased to be present my new class on Conscious Sadism. "Let Your Beast Out". Will be hot! I am also offering a community needle pull energy ritual with my dear friend and co-teacher at the Academy of SM Arts, Eve Minax.

Find out more
http://thunderinthemountains.com

My Academy of SM Arts is now enrolling the annual Erotic Dominance Intensive for Professionals ! If you are already involved or know someone interested in this work, this full three day course at the SF Citadel August 14-16 is filled with practical and psychological tools! Hands on playshops with our trained Academy volunteers bottoms , workbook and lots of personal attention from Cleo Dubois, Eve Minax and Selina Raven.

Find out more
http://www.sm-arts.com/intensives/pros.html

Apply at
http://www.sm-arts.com/intensives/form-pros.html.

Vintage ads that make you wonder: Ouija, why are you so gender biased?

This is the last ad for the day. I'm glad I was able to blog them -- things were still a bit dicey this morning, but I *cough cough* manned up and got it all done. Now I am breathing a sigh of relief and finding time to coddle my poodle again. All deadlines met, all editors happy, and I hope to be able to share a link to one of the pieces in the next week or so.

Anyway, this ad.

Let me see if I understand correctly. Girls think about fashion, gossip, and silly ditsy shit. Boys think about cars, college, and their fear of commitment. Oh, Ouija, I have some questions for you about promulgating nitwit gender stereotypes.

Vintage ads that make you wonder: from soup to sexist nuts

Is there an emoticon for "brain exploding" ?